hi guys! welcome back to maggie’s doodles 💞 one day at work recently, i realized that in strengthening my social skills, customer service interactions, and making a lot of friends, i’ve accidentally learned about how to get over embarrassing moments!
let me tell you, it’s so much easier to work with people you see all the time + get over awkward interactions quickly when you learn how to laugh at yourself. it’s helped me so much!
i want to share some of the things i’ve learned along the way. if this is something you want to work on too, maybe something you read here could inspire you!
so, you guys might get second-hand embarrassment from my embarrassing work encounters 😏 but hey, that’s free exposure therapy! haha
most of my experience with this topic comes from interacting with coworkers and customers, just so you know ✌
how to laugh at yourself
(i kid you not 😂)
Don’t take yourself too seriously //
the other day, a woman ordered a milkshake, and i asked if she wanted any sauce with it. 🤣 GUYS haha
that’s what happens when you’re taking orders, it’s super busy, the drive is filling up, you’re thinking about pulling cars forward, and you forget what the customer just ordered lol! which leads me to my next point:
Use the experience to potentially make someone smile or laugh! //
the woman thought it was funny that i asked her about sauce, and because i was smiling and laughing about it, she felt free to laugh with me!
when someone gets angry, nervous, or super embarrassed about their mistakes, it becomes awkward for everyone, not just them.
Find the humor in it //
one day while i was out taking orders, i made a bunch of successive blunders! (that sentence sounds wrong haha) i put the wrong color tag on two different cars, then i went and dropped all of the number tags in my hand… while taking someone’s order. literally the tags went under the customer’s car. one of my coworkers had to come help me pick them up 😂
so there i was, making a fool of myself in front of a customer and three or four of my comrads!
on another day, i might have been mortified. i usually pride myself in my work and in doing everything correctly. but it felt so nice to think my bloopers were genuinely funny!
Remember that no one is gonna remember it //
you can’t apply this to every single embarrassment, because some people do be petty and up-talk mistakes othes have made. however~ in most scenarios, especially at work, they’re not gonna hold it against you, and they’re probably gonna forget it!
can i tell you how many times i’ve asked for a customer’s name so i can start taking their order, then got distracted and asked for their name again before they can tell me what they’d like? (*not me realizing most of my life’s embarrassments come from order-taking*) oh, or while bagging and i call for a food item that’s literally on the counter in front of me because i forgot i grabbed it.
in most cases, how fast you move on from the mistake is how quickly others will too! don’t let them define you 😊
It will help you learn how to support others through their mistakes //
some you can laugh with them about, sometimes you can recall your own embarrassments to soften theirs, etc!
i’ve actually seen some of my coworkers’ confidence improve because they’ve seen how i respond to my mistakes! we really need more role models helping us learn how we can navigate life 💞
When you’re in control of your response, no one can bring you down with it! //
this is one of the biggest things i’ve noticed about laughing at yourself!
two different times i can recall, a customer tried to embarrass me with a mistake i made. however, because i laughed it off or showed them i wasn’t embarrassed by it, they dropped it.
the only reason people try to use mistakes against others is for that response. they want to have that power over you to control your emotions, because they get some kind of amusement from seeing your face turn red, get nervous, or cry.
but if YOU hold that power in your hands, they’ll never hold it in theirs!
You will encourage a humble attitude + view of yourself //
one day while bagging recently, i asked for the time on two spicy biscuits. one of the kitchen managers, who’s super hilarious, asked what biscuits i was talking about. i checked the screen to give him the order number, then i saw they were sandwiches. (which takes way longer in the morning to cook) so i was like “oh! my bad, those are the sandwiches,” and he started smiling, so i went on, “i gotta learn how to read,” and he started reciting the ABC’s 😂 hahah
when you admit regularly that everyone makes mistakes (including you), it doesn’t feel like such a big deal anymore!
expecting to make mistakes, instead of requiring perfection from yourself (which – pro tip – you’ll never achieve), will get you so far!
thanks so much for reading! i never thought that handling embarrassments is something you can work on, but it truly is. i really recommend it!