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one thing i’ve been working on recently is getting out of my head and into my life! i’m gonna explain what i mean in this post 💕
getting out of your head
and into your life:
changing our mindsets 🧠💕
I’m making the decision to mentally live in today //
sometimes i won’t even realize how frequently my mind is elsewhere.
i’ll take a myriad of approaches to bringing myself back around to the present! (also i never use that word myriad haha 😂)
- i’ll use cbt therapy techniques to work through fears and anxieties (i wrote a post about that process here!)
- i remember positive situations and outcomes from the past that help me to see beyond the present
- i’ll consciously let go of things my mind tries to hold on to
- i’ll let the present show me that my past fears weren’t even true
there are days when it takes work to be mentally present. when something reminds me of a hard situation in the past, my brain whirls through all the bad ways i felt and it’s overwhelming sometimes. that’s why i’m so passionate about healing, recovery, and prevention! when it’s your life we’re talking about, i want to see you and me thrive. 💖
our brains are hardwired to run from danger. in today’s world, we perceive a lot of things as dangerous. failing academically, losing our jobs, becoming disconnected from family and friends, eating unhealthily, not exercising, natural disasters, other dangers – the list goes on and on!
we put our mental health on the line when we place our welfare on too many things.
what if we simplified that list? what if we believed, day in and day out, that as long as we had enough food to eat today and a place to sleep tonight, then everything is okay?
it does feel like there are a lot more dangers in today’s world, but it’s because of how much we trust in and hold onto things.
we cannot mentally sustain freaking out about everything forever.
you cannot hold the entire weight of your life and all the possible negative outcomes in your mind without crashing down.
while it freaks me out to think about losing my blog, getting stung by a wasp, losing my job, not getting married, losing my eyesight, and having open-heart surgery, all the possibilities of those things happening are too much for me to keep in my mind all the time.
you don’t need to prepare yourself. you don’t need to work through all the horrible ways you’d feel if your worst fears were realized, because in reality, you’re making yourself live through them right now. you are accidentally entertaining the idea of and living through the emotions and physical side effects of those fears.
i can’t even stress how important it is for us to live in today.
I bring myself back to the present //
when i notice my mind start drifting out to sea, i’ll look at what i’m currently doing! it could be sitting on the couch playing my new kirby game. i could be order-checking bags at work. i could have just finished a slightly embarrassing conversation with a co-worker. and you know what i’ll do? distract yourself back to the present!
music, funny things, a friendly conversation, or a breath of fresh air go a long way toward being mentally and emotionally present. changing what you’re doing, even slightly, helps distract your brain to thinking other things. try not to give it that space or silence to talk about fears, anxieties, or upsetting possibilities.
take lessons from the past + plan for the future, while living here! //
so, i know it’s not as simple as all that. and i’m not suggesting you mentally do this in your every waking moment 😂 there’s a time and a place to learn from what you’ve gone through, make decisions that positively impact the future, and learn from others’ experiences. but when you’re in the headspace to do those things, go for it!
it’s just really good to consistently take the directions your thoughts tend to head in and do good things with them.
don’t let quiet moments, problems, or startling situations distract you away from all that you’ve been working on //
this is such a huge tip of mine. i know when those thoughts get going, the last thing you can think about is the positive progress you’ve been making and the next steps you’re gonna take in that awesome direction. but-
YOUVE GOT THIS
i know you do!!
the more you get in the habit of bringing yourself back to your goals and your present situation, the easier it gets 🥰
thanks so much for reading! i love you guys so much, and i’ll talk to you again soon 💖