hey guys! while watching uncharted at the theater a few days ago (which is an incredible movie btw, fully recommend 🤩), a thought struck me.
and it began with a negative comparison.
one of the women in the movie has the “perfect” physique. her arms are perfectly defined, with the beautiful definition of strong muscles and power. her clothes really suited her, and the way she walked and held herself was a striking one full of confidence. her hair and makeup were also perfect.
so my thoughts were going “man, i wish i looked like that. i bet i could if i tried. what could i change about my diet to look like her? if i started doing arm workouts all the time, i could achieve that. i should wear more makeup so i’m more pleasing to look at. what can i cut out of my diet to be that thin?”
and all this time i’m also trying to keep up with the movie’s plot and admire tom holland haha
but that’s when a positive, supporting thought hit me.
(and it wasn’t about tom but those thoughts are positive too)
i thought: “what if i don’t try to look like someone else? i love my body shape the way it is. i love being me. i can be comfortable in my own body and embrace who i am.”
it really felt revolutionary.
because i hadn’t acknowledged that deep down, i was always wanting to be a different person. in fact i’m often surprised when people like me for who i am. you know why? because i didn’t have that inner self-acceptance. i wanted to be someone else. i thought that was admirable, but in fact it was slowly destroying me.
i’ve thought that my best qualities were things i’d picked up from other people… so it didn’t really feel like me. cause you know how when you admire someone, and you appreciate qualities about them, you pick up some of those traits yourself? i felt inauthentic because my role models and friends have helped shape who i am.
but that’s part of being human.
we learn by example and we make our own narrative in life.
so it felt really exciting and wonderful to think of loving myself for who i am! instead of having those well one day i’ll love myself thoughts, i’m stoked about enjoying my qualities, characteristics, and strengths.
positive progress is attainable instead of impossible.
because when i love myself, i’m able to see how many things i’m doing right, which gives me the strength to work through what i need and want to fix.
instead of having the glow-up mentality, which is so far out of reach, starting with who i am is the perfect place to be!
i hope this could encourage and inspire you, even if it’s in some small way!
thanks so much for reading!! 😍💖 let me know if you’d like to read more posts like this. if you have a topic idea, a question you’d like answered, etc, i’d love to write about it!