Hey guys! I’m back!! 💜 I’m so excited to be back doing my usual posts. If you didn’t know, I took a bit of time off to focus on other areas of my life, which I’m so happy I did. Now I have some new content to share with you! (Some of it’s similar to the posts I usually do on this blog, but in a newwww way 😂💕)
So the title
gives away shares what today’s post is about! I’ll be writing about seven ways I calm night anxiety. This is something I have to do every single night. I want to slow down and sleep, but my brain’s still wanting to go hundreds of miles an hour – which does not allow for sleep. xD
I wanted to write this post because when I was younger and really struggling with falling asleep (I’d be up most nights until like 1am feeling scared and stressed), a post like this would have been so helpful for me! I hope that if you’d like some tips and advice on creating more peaceful evenings for yourself, then this post will help you. 💕
9 ways I calm night anxiety
1. Listen to positive music. I either do this while chilling in the evening, or when I’m trying to fall asleep but I still have a lot I’m thinking about. By popping my earbuds in and turning a song on that I really like, it helps me to redirect any negative thoughts floating around and figure out what I want to focus on while relaxing to go to sleep. This leads me to my next point:
2. Keep thinking about the good. This can either be about happy things that have been happening in my life, or identifying the negative and seeing what positive lessons I can see in them. I use some different questions I’ve come up with to help get me going 😊💕 I might think things like:
- what am I looking forward to doing tomorrow?
- what were some positive memories from today?
- is there anything that happened today that I regret? if so, how can I respond differently next time?
- what am I learning from the challenges I’m currently going through?
3. Accept when I don’t fall asleep quickly. Sometimes when sleep’s not coming and all I can think about is the longer I stay awake, the less hours of sleep I get, that keeps me up for longer. I’m lying there stressed out, thinking about all sorts of worrisome things. So what I’ve found is that when I accept that I’m lying there, not falling asleep yet, I can’t get stressed about it. I can’t be fine and freaked out simultaneously. So by letting my body know that nothing horrible is happening, I’m just still awake, then I prevent that pitfall feeling I get in my stomach when I’m worried. I send positive feedback to my freaked out brain, and maintain a sense of balance. 💛
4. Enjoy relaxing in my bed instead of stressing about not sleeping yet. This goes with my last tip a bit: by peacefully lying there and enjoying the quiet, I keep my heart rate at a comfortable pace and my thoughts going in a positive direction. It takes effort, but it’s so much more comfortable then getting anxious about sleep not coming and wanting to cry. Instead of emphasizing what feels bad (I’m not asleep yet!!), I’m focusing on the good (I get to lie here and chill!).
5. Create a night routine I enjoy doing. The great thing about night routines is that no matter what you do for them, for however long you do those activities, those habits will help teach your mind that that routine means it’s time to start winding down! Same goes for morning routines: once you start doing it, it’s time to wake up and get going 😉
For my current night routine, I…
- wash my face
- floss my teeth
- brush my teeth
- change into pajamas
- watch part of a movie with my family
- take my multivitamin
- finish tidying my room if I need to
- watch some inspirational and/or relaxing videos
- go to bed 😴
6. Refrain from watching/reading anything suspenseful (anything that gets my mind going). I’ll find that even if I enjoy reading mystery books during the day, they’re not fun to read before bed. I feel like I’m on alert, trying to find the culprit in my book when I’m trying to go to sleep. 😂 so if I don’t watch or read things that put me on the defense lol, I find it much easier to wind down in the evenings!
7. Address things throughout the day so they don’t pile up at night. Sometimes I’ll put off a problem I’m having (either with someone else or something I’m trying to figure out) during the day, then right before bed, the lack of resolve hits me. I end up realizing I want things to be right again between me and one of my family members, or I want some help with a problem I was putting off fixing, etc, so I’ll do that before bed. It’s usually best not to do that because I’m sleepy by that point, and no one’s in a problem-solving mood approaching midnight lol. So if there’s something that starts bothering you when you’re going to bed, think about ways you can prevent that in the future, or find a way to look at the situation so that you’re able to tackle it tomorrow.
8. Find a way to manage being in the dark. I’ve found nighttime, dark closets – anything where light’s not involved – to be troublesome for most of my life. But to fall asleep, my room has to be some level of dark because otherwise, I wouldn’t be able to relax! I’ve found that having a nightlight to provide a bit of light, as well as trusting that my room is safe and comfortable, helps me to be able to hop into bed and not be scared of my surroundings. If you have a box fan like I do for the cool air and white noise, make sure you don’t have any plastic bags sitting around or clothes hanging out – the sound of a bag is startling and distracting, and when clothes are moving in the “breeze” from the fan, I’ll end up seeing that movement and not feeling peaceful at all. That leads into my final point, which is to:
9. Make my environment as seamless as possible. If there are clothes on the floor, or the nightlight’s casting weird shadows, or the box fan is rickety (send help 😂), I’ll be thinking about all that stuff instead of being able to clear my mind and get sleepy. So if I take care of little chores over the course of the day and tie up loose ends before bed, so that I don’t have anything that needs to get done while lying in bed.
Thank you so much for reading! I hope these tips helped you and gave you some ideas on how you can make your evenings more peaceful and happy. 💜