Hello chickadees! It’s Maggie, and this is Chickadee Lover Maggie. I blog about so many things! I love inspiring, creating, and laughing, and that’s reflected in all of my posts. I hope you enjoy your time here. Let me know if there are ever any posts you’d like to see! Now, onto today’s post.

Recently, I began looking into writing a single post on the subject of self-esteem.

I had the initial idea for it when I realized that in social settings where I’m interacting with new people, I am surprised when people remember who I am.

That means that my assumption that others won’t care when I spend time with them is greater than my hope that they will.

I know this is not a healthy way to approach relationships. In fact, it’s an important factor to be aware of, because I’m beginning to understand how I’ve approached friendships for a long time.

I’m a huge advocate of personal development, self-improvement, and emotional healing. Sometimes, I’ll get stuck in a cycle where I’m not sure what I’m doing, but my extensive history of self-awareness has helped me through a lot while simultaneously causing me to struggle.

It’s wonderful to be as open to improvement and positive change as I am, but it’s also the source of self-esteem (primarily self-efficacy) issues in my life.

In a sentence, my desire to improve myself has kept me in a constant state of dissatisfaction.

Because if I’m always wanting to fix or change something, that means I’m not happy with who I am and what I’ve accomplished today. I’ll never cross the finish line because there are hundreds (if not thousands!) of finish lines to cross in life.

If my eyes are always on the next one and the next one and the next one, I never even acknowledge the ones I’ve just finished sprinting across.

It’s good to look ahead, plan for the future, and make positive decisions that will impact my life for the better. But if I only look in any of the three directions – back to the past, now in the present, ahead to the future – I’m depriving myself of a well-rounded outlook on life.

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My interest in learning about self-esteem for a standalone post led me to the discovery of many similar subjects. Instead of throwing a post together for today (I definitely wasn’t prepared for that haha), I’m going to share a self-esteem series in September on my blog!

I’ll be doing mini studies on my findings, sharing my experiences, thought-provoking quotes, and anything else I discover along the way. 🙂

I’m really excited about it and I’m looking forward to posting this series to share with you! Thanks for reading and I’ll talk to you again soon.

— Maggie